~~~I wrote this blog post in advance prior to the Coronavirus pandemic and was going to share this in May for Mental Health month. In light of our current situation and seeing so many who are struggling mentally on Social Media, I thought I'd post it now. Stay healthy, friends.~~~
Do you ever have moments of overwhelmed.... overwhelm? Lately, it feels like I have so many irons in the fire that I struggle to keep my head above water!
If you don't know already, Dreamy Suds is a business I own and run alongside a full time job. I'm also married and we have a 12 year old daughter who is an avid swimmer, which is a sport with a pretty demanding commitment. Finding a work / life balance can be difficult when there's so much work and so much life!
I'm keeping it real here.... there are days that drain me. There are days that I wonder why I'm trying to manage a full fledged business on top of a full time job. There are days that I forget lunch money or a change in the practice schedule or a homework due date reminder. Other days, I don't get production of a product done by a target date, or I miss a marketing goal or suddenly realize that the quarterly taxes are due tomorrow after working late at the day job. Sometimes, I wonder.... why?
I've read so many inspiring blog posts chock full of time management tips and apps designed to make productivity and reminders effective with a feel good ending stating something to the effect of "If I can do it, you can too!" They fool me every time.
The truth is.... running a business is hard. It takes discipline, time, bookkeeping, financial analytics, social media strategy, planning, budgeting, taxes - and that's just the business side of things. There's production, testing, inventory management, recipe formulation and development, research, regulations and shipping. Running a business is truly more effort than I ever thought it would be.
You might be thinking "Geez Missy... such a downer post - why do you keep doing it then? And why are you telling me?" Because maybe you can relate. Maybe you need to hear that life can be overwhelming for other people too and you know what? It's okay.
And I share it because my life can sometimes be a hot mess, but I keep going. And while not everyday is living the dream, I love what I do in my life. My husband and my daughter are my biggest cheerleaders and support everything I do. Even my failures. I'm teaching my daughter that hard work ethic is important. I'm also teaching her that it's okay to screw up. And it's okay to put everything aside for what's important when it's necessary to do so. And I'm teaching myself that I'm not perfect - and it's okay.
I love my exhausting life. I love my family, I love what I do, I'm proud of what I accomplish and that I learn from the lessons that I experience. If you needed to hear this, I hope it inspires you to step back and realize that while it may seem like a sinking ship sometimes - you're growing every day and so are those around you.
May is Mental Health Awareness month. I wrote this in the spirit of transparency and encouragement. If you find that you need a little more help to manage your own sense of overwhelming overwhelm, there are resources available and know that there is NO shame in utilizing them. Be your own advocate!
I've listed a few options below for you to consider should you need the information.
- Emergency: 911
- National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1- 800-799-7233
- National Sexual Violence Hotline: 1-800-656-HOPE (4673)
- National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-TALK (8255)
- National Hopeline Network: 1-800-SUICIDE (800-784-2433)
- National Alliance on Mental Illness Helpline: 800-950-6264
- Samaritans Crisis Hotline: 212-673-3000
- Lifeline Crisis Chat (Online live messaging): http://www.crisischat.org/
- Crisis Text Line: Text “START” TO 741-741
- Self-Harm Hotline: 1-800-DONT CUT (1-800-366-8288)
- Family Violence Helpline: 1-800-996-6228
- Planned Parenthood Hotline: 1-800-230-PLAN (7526)
- American Association of Poison Control Centers: 1-800-222-1222
- National Council on Alcoholism & Drug Dependency Hope Line: 1-800-622-2255
- National Crisis Line - Anorexia and Bulimia: 1-800-233-4357
- GLBT Hotline: 1-888-843-4564
- TREVOR Crisis Hotline: 1-866-488-7386
- Trans Lifeline: 877-565-8860
- AIDS Crisis Line: 1-800-221-7044
- Veterans Crisis Line: https://www.veteranscrisisline.net
- Suicide Prevention Wiki: http://suicideprevention.wikia.com